Together, Tom and I have 8 children, one in heaven, and one on the way. We are no-where perfect at doing this whole blended family thing, but we have love. Although, we have not had the opportunity to meet Tom’s son yet, I am hopeful that in time the Lord will provide for that meeting. I carry this hope because I have already seen the Lord provide for a miraculous meeting with another of Tom’s children.
My post today is not going to be a long one, but it is an important one none the less. It has to do with “restorative justice”. In a conversation today I asked Tom if he has experienced healing because he has been able to confront his victim, acknowledge his crime, and ask for forgiveness from her.
His unhestitating answer was “Absolutely”. Although his relationship with his daughter is rocky at best, as she continues to heal from the trauma of her childhood, there has been opportunity for those puddles of pain to dry up.
I have such a deep love for this child of God. Such empathy and a heart for her healing. Soon after I found out about Tom’s crime, and without Tom’s knowledge, I contacted her and “instigated” their reunion. At first she was very angry and had many hateful things to say to and about me for loving a sex offender. Her offender. (How could she not have an opinion about that?) But after several text conversations with her father, she sought him out and was very receptive to meeting with us. We spent several months getting to know her and even had the opportunity to provide her with housing for a bit and to have her in our wedding. I know that Tom is so thankful for the months he got to spend with her and that he is hopeful that a healthier relationship will continue to grow as we all continue to seek healing.
I personally feel that I witnessed a miracle the day that they reunited. How many people can say that they witnessed a victim of sexual abuse, embrace her offender and offer forgiveness and love? We have a lot farther to go on this journey of “Blended Love” but the building blocks have been laid.
I am faithful in my belief that if our foundation is built on the rock of our salvation, He will bring this family to full reconciliation.
~Gem the hopeful
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